The first post is from Vicky Harinski. She lives in West Babylon, NY with her sons Ryan (soon to be a junior in High School) and Lucas (sport-minded 3rd grader) and her daughter (soon to be starting high school). Currently, Vicky is pursuing her passion for the web and the media that she has always enjoyed! Please go support her and visit her links that will be posted at the end of her writing.
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"When I woke up this morning in my mirror is my good friend Vicky with her bright smile, lovely skin and dark hair I am charmed by her wit. What Vicky sees as she gazes in my reflection is a woman with dark circles under her eyes, flat hair and muffin in the middle.
Each morning I wake up with a smile as get ready to meet her she is coming to meet me with a smile on her face too. I question why a young woman like herself continues to meet me every morning and in the evening to wish each other sweet dreams.
The women speak of their plans today as the woman becomes engrossed with Vicky’s plans for today. In the background, a faint voice that sounds a bit scared is calling for someone. The voice is coming closer until as the woman is enjoying spending time with her lovely friend, Vicky lets the woman know that she is hearing a young boy looking for someone. The voice is coming in close until he sees the woman in her room. When he sees the woman, we find out the woman’s name, which is Mommy.
Once Vicky has to tell her that, she is Mommy, the woman says goodbye to her friend for the day.Reality is back and time to get the child his breakfast and prepare for school. As I prepare the lunch for the youngest, my older left the remainders of what they could not fit in their lunch bags. The piece of résistance is the sight of empty boxes of granola bars in the cabinets. After I pack lunch for the youngest, the time has to debate with him of what time to brush his teeth and for how long. You would think by now, he will lose the debate but he keeps trying thinking one day he will be slick enough to win.
As the day continues of household chores and dinner is on the table, Mommy is wondering how Vicky's day is going. She reflects on stories, which Vicky mentioned about going out after work, shopping in the city and being frivolous. As Mommy, smiles thinking of what a great day Vicky is going out to, Vicky is feeling a bit of sadness of coming into an empty home after. Vicky sees the love in Mommy's children eyes no matter what happens during the course of the day. As Vicky has slight pangs of loneliness, Mommy like to have the opportunity to do nothing for an hour of her time.
As the day ends, Vicky and Mommy meet in the room and smile. As they share how their days went, Vicky sees that no matter how tired Mommy is she still has a glow in her. She is loved unconditionally from those around her. Mommy also sees that how independent Vicky is she is confident and fortunate to have a great support system.
Yes, as you read and put the two women together, it is I Vicky the Mommy. There is no guilt of being two individual woman wanting different things but coming to a compromise. I know as the person, if I go out and have a good time; it means that mommy is happy also. The small taste of individuality makes mommy a better person inside and to her family. Life is short, so get to know all the people inside of you and do not limit it to what you are expected to be by others."
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"Life is short, so get to know all the people inside of you and do not limit it to what you are expected to be by others"
Personally I think this quote Vicky has written is very true. We live in the world where we are influenced by physical appearances, people's opinions and we are subjected to then compare ourselves to other people. This means we are always looking outwards and we barely take time to get to know ourselves. This then leads to us believing others' opinions and we never end up knowing quite truly of our capabilities, potentials and our true self.
Take 'John' for example...
John has been a mechanic all his life, a good one in fact. He likes what he does as it gives him enough money to live on. But what he really wants to do is study law and become a lawyer. As he commented on this over dinner with his family and friends, the people who have known John all his life, they remarked, "John, what are you talking about? Do you realise that studying law takes years? You do realise that you have to memorise a lot of things and take a lot of exams don't ya? Are you sure you are capable of this? You've been working with hands all your life mate how will you start using your brain now?!"
These friends and family of John probably said this because they were worried for him and don't want him to get into something that he will regret. It is true that they haven't seen John do anything else besides fix cars so they are doubtful that he will have the patience or the mental power to get a law degree.
Make sure you know who you are and your potentials and your capabilities. When you do, no one else can take that away from you. If somebody doubts your potential to achieve something, you should realise that that in itself is their opinion that does not relate to you at all one bit because you know yourself, you know that you are capable of achieving whatever task, whatever problem that is in front of you. If you doubt your own potential to achieve something, you have to look inside of you for the strength.
You have to believe in what you do because there is a chance that no body else is going to believe in you. I think that is what greatness is made of.
This is when John should look inside himself and realise that "Ok what they're saying makes sense. I guess I haven't been doing anything else all my life so who's to say I can actually do this?...But you know something? This is something I think, no I know, I can have a go at. I've always had great debating skills, I am a fast learner and I'll have a great time actually studying in a University! Imagine that..." When he realises this, he has found his strength that can stand against time and any opinions and doubts that comes to him because he himself knows his heart and his soul, and that they have the potential to create something great all together with him.
I try to live life as open minded as possible. If somebody gives you their opinion on something, it doesn't mean you should believe it or abide by it. You can take it into consideration but you should always come up with your own conclusion in the end.
I used to be quite susceptible to others views about myself. Whenever someone commented on something about me I always ended up questioning myself. Over this past year I overcame a lot of things and this lead to me finding out about myself and what I'm capable of. The more you look inside yourself, the more belief and strength you will have no matter what anybody is doing or what anybody is saying.
I think Vicky's guest post shows her being content with herself for the person she is now. She is grateful for her life as a mother and a family member and at the same time, she takes great pride in knowing that she also has other interests and capabilities. No matter how others are living their life, this thought gives her the strength to live her own life as an individual and not as anybody else.
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Thank you so much Vicky.
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